How many times have you criticized for saying yes too quickly?
Yes, a friend to accompany her to appointments, Yes to the movies, when you thought you'd rather save in comfortable clothing you do a TV tray,
Yes, to keep the children in your beautiful sister, Yes to go tinkering with a colleague or help move ...
So many moments of frustration when you said: "But why do I still said yes? "
Why do we not know say no?
- Because we have not learned to do: have you the right to say no to Dad, Mom, the "large" in general?
- Because it may be a way for us to exist, to be useful to render services.
Do not mean that you should never say Yes!
But just ask yourself the question:
"Is that to say Yes is good for me? "
Yes, because you'll also get pleasure in keeping the children in your beautiful sister, yes, because you really want to please this friend ...
No, because you're tired and your body needs to rest, not because you have another invitation that will delight you ...
Get used to take a little time before responding, or return to your appointment quickly, saying:
"I responded a little faster but I can not, without necessarily justify yourself, just give you the right to be yourself in your priority needs.
We listen very often our 'false needs', that is to say what we do for pleasure or fear of displeasing.
And if you listen to your real needs, those that are good for you?
It is learned, because surely you've never done, you do not dare for fear of being selfish.
But the more you are happy, well in your life, the more you bring all this to the people around you. A child who feels his parent happy advantage of all this beautiful energy of this very good role model for his future in the adult world.
So dare to say No!
Yes, a friend to accompany her to appointments, Yes to the movies, when you thought you'd rather save in comfortable clothing you do a TV tray,
Yes, to keep the children in your beautiful sister, Yes to go tinkering with a colleague or help move ...
So many moments of frustration when you said: "But why do I still said yes? "
Why do we not know say no?
- Because we have not learned to do: have you the right to say no to Dad, Mom, the "large" in general?
- Because it may be a way for us to exist, to be useful to render services.
Do not mean that you should never say Yes!
But just ask yourself the question:
"Is that to say Yes is good for me? "
Yes, because you'll also get pleasure in keeping the children in your beautiful sister, yes, because you really want to please this friend ...
No, because you're tired and your body needs to rest, not because you have another invitation that will delight you ...
Get used to take a little time before responding, or return to your appointment quickly, saying:
"I responded a little faster but I can not, without necessarily justify yourself, just give you the right to be yourself in your priority needs.
We listen very often our 'false needs', that is to say what we do for pleasure or fear of displeasing.
And if you listen to your real needs, those that are good for you?
It is learned, because surely you've never done, you do not dare for fear of being selfish.
But the more you are happy, well in your life, the more you bring all this to the people around you. A child who feels his parent happy advantage of all this beautiful energy of this very good role model for his future in the adult world.
So dare to say No!
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